So, we did it again. I kind of feel at this point that I *might* be going overboard with photos of Dan and I (see here…and here…and here), but I couldn’t let our 10-year anniversary go by without some photographic evidence how we look, how we felt, and how we were together at this stage in our marriage. For this round I chose the insanely talented Courtney Gallery Photography from Saint John. It was hard to choose (I was 100% happy with Shannon-May and Sean too!) but in the end I was totally drawn to her modern style of editing, darkness, intimacy in her images, and focus on details (all areas I myself struggle with in my work), so after a few email exchanges the date was set and we were ready to go. Of course I worried too much about our outfits (thank goodness for Facebook friends who were able to advise and loan me an entire outfit-thanks Jenna!), my hair (thank goodness for Jackie at La Bella Si for making me feel confident!), and how we would do in front of a stranger, but of course we were well-practiced and I couldn’t be more thrilled with the results.
I know that this style of intimate/serious/sexy photography isn’t for every couple, but it is 100% us (a lot of these poses are taken straight out of our kitchen after work, haha), and seeing us here at this point, 13 years into our relationship, grey and wrinkled and tired and happy, means the world to me. I encourage all married couples to get photos done on the regular; your relationship doesn’t end after the wedding, continue documenting it and its positive growth.
[Oh, and a few tips for couples who want to try this kind of posing but aren’t sure where to start…1. Relax! I know it’s hard but don’t feel like you have to put on a performance for your photographer, they just want to observe the two of you together. Take a breath, don’t think too hard, have fun 🙂 2. Focus on your partner and try to forget about the camera, pretend you are at home…if you can’t look at your partner for that long without effort, close your eyes! 3. Hands: put those hands on each other! Hands communicate a ton in photographs and are often the hardest to pose, so use them! Around the face, neck, through the hair, squeeze those shoulders and hug and grab that waist; keep the hands moving to provide variety and keep from feeling too stiff. 4. If you don’t feel like your partner will know what to do, maybe give them a few quick tips before the session so that they aren’t put on the spot in front of the photographer (I specifically told Dan I wanted a lot of him holding my face so he knew what to do once we started) 5. If a pose isn’t working for you, move out of it into something more comfortable, your photographer will refine it if it doesn’t work for them. 5. Squeeze in close, closer than you probably would IRL (and keep those stomachs touching). 6. Go for it! It might feel a bit silly or exaggerated, but letting go of your reservations with this type of photography will really help you get the images you desire.]
I tried to narrow it down but of course I couldn’t, deciding what to print is going to be a nightmare!
[Oh, and it goes without saying that Dan is pretty much a male model at this point, lol, he is so good in front of the camera, I’m really lucky that he puts up with these sessions I make him do! Love you babe.]